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Hi I'm 25 I don't out dress but I do dress in a unisex style whilst I do under dress and occasionally cross dress in doors away from prying eyes i have a trans understanding flat mate and run my own business so have a fair amount of freedom in that regard. My business is about making stories or games for lgbt audiences I won't say which but its a interesting way to pursue my interests through story exploration.
I've had my hair grown out for a long time and I have lower T then an average guy due to hormone problems I've had since puberty, my mother supported me somewhere along the line and bought me some bra's and things when i was 17-18 or so taking a bit of fun in the experience. From my current understanding I'm a 34b(changed abit recently) which makes me a little self conscious about my nipples when I go out but thankfully my long flowing locks cover it on non windy day;d
I'm half asian somehow ended up with dainty fingers and a hips that ppl keep pointing out. I get mistaken for the opposite gender a lot and its particular annoying at pubs and bars(Happend today)
I spend a lot of my free time looking at clothing I probably won't ever wear ;d but it entertains me.

I guess as I continue on my business journey with friends of similar interests and tastes I'l figure out new heights of bravery or daring down the line;d Whilst I have not crossdressed out and about's i have done it on stage for music previously and it was also enjoyable that way. For me I find male clothing restrictive or lacking in innovation so I like to create very androgynous characters wherever through art or stories. Before getting into my current line of work I worked in fashion marketing for a while. My friends mostly know what I'm like, my mum probably doesn't really know how far I'm interested but did encourage me to enjoy my unique position a while ago and my dad is just anti anything from simple things to your curtains are to flowery and girly i'm getting rid of them. I've been in my own place for the last 3 and half years now however.

Mentally I'm like we never chose what gender we were born as and I hate these sterotypes or expectations for what you should be like. On the gender front if I could snap my fingers and change I'd be happy to however I'm not actually interested in going on drugs to change things though technically I'm not set up the normal way anyway.

I'm outwardly a very chatty person and talk a lot but I've never been a very vocal forum person finding it a little hard to find something to say unless its a very good point I tend not to post. I've read a few stories around here and once tried to sign up on a similar forum but when my acount never got authenticated. I just gave up on the idea it wasn't until a few days ago when I was googling if wearing a bra or not would really do anything for me did I find this forum(As I'd been noticing red marks under each side recently)

Welcome, Winter.

You sound a highly intelligent person. My instinct is you need a frame. That is I think you need a new form of self-expression to give form to what is whirling around inside you.

Welcome to the Haven, Winter. I'm with you on stereotypes, I hated it as a child being constantly pressurized to be something I just wasn't. I hope you find lots of interesting topics to post your opinions on, and do feel free to start topics of your own if you think we might be interested.

Welcome!

I'm sure this forum will help you along in your journey.


Awesome name BTW, Winter!

Not sure about the now as I do spend a lot of my time on creativity like things. With a lot of freedom alongside my work and a generally stress free lifestyle. I'm left thinking about the future or what I could be doing in the long run.

Initially I wrote a very long response on this comment here but I realized that was just a rant and was kinda unnecessary. But to put it lightly I do bottle up a lot of things for the positive forward thinker I make myself out to be to most people. Its been effecting my pondering thoughts or dreams for a long time.



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One obvious thought is if it's affecting your dreams, maybe you need to see a therapist. I mean these guys are trained to help you clear up your head. That gives you a venue you haven't used before.

My flat mate that's transitioning suggested the same thing but they saw some so that they could get mentally approved to take hormones in this first place I'm not really sure what a therapist could do for me that I don't already know ;d though maybe I'l change my mind in the future and its not like I haven't looked into the possibility before.



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Well, I have pushed you and been quite aggressive about this. I'm not really inclined to beat you over the head.

Hi, Winter, and welcome to the Haven!


- SL

Hi and welcome to the Haven.

A quick point of clarification, you do not just see a therapist to be able to get on hormones. More important is to see a therapist to help you get things straight you have bouncing around in your head. In fact they should not not get you on hormones until you figure our things between your ears.

Hope to see your around.

Hi Winter, aboard.

Hi Winter and welcome to this happy, friendly and supportive Haven.