introducing myself

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Fri Sep 10, 2004 5:53 pm

Hi ,

I'm Mellissa I'm 34 years old
Married and 3 lovely kids 2 sons and 1 daughter
I've been crossdressing ever since i was a teen around 12when i started
well i'm a printer as profession
Just told my wife (yesterday) that i was a crossdresser (that was the hardest thing i ever had to do)
She took it pretty good she was shocked and mad (who can blame her??)i kept it a secret for 11 years
but we had a long talk and i tried to explain it hope i did ok
But she didnt leave me so thats a good sign i guess
i think i just need to be patient with her
in here i hope to get some help and support from al you people
well thats about it
Oh yeah i'm from Holland (euro trash

)

hugs Mellissa

Jessie · Post by **Jessie** » Fri Sep 10, 2004 6:23 pm

Well good luck Mellissa, I hope everthing works out. Just remmeber that what I have seen from other who have come oout ot there spuses if they just take time the time and continue talking then that is a good thing.

Jessie (usa)

GalicianGirl(SO) · Post by **GalicianGirl(SO)** » Fri Sep 10, 2004 7:21 pm

Hi Mellisa,
Welcome to our forum!!! I'm glad to hear that you finally told your wife. I hope this forum can give you any help that you might need. Why don't you try and get your wife to join our little group? She may find it very helpful also...

Shaorn(SO)

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri Sep 10, 2004 8:12 pm

Welcome Mellisa,
Yes, coming out tto your spouse can be somewhat unnerving, I too hope it works out for you!
Virginia

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Sat Sep 11, 2004 1:49 am

Thanks for all your kind words and support
I think it would be good for my wife to join and talk with other wife's on their experience's and feelings
But she doesnt write or speak english that well so thats a problem i could type it for her but then i would still be in between and i dont think thats good
i think she needs the opportunity to talk in privite without me knowing everything she wants to ask or talk about
couse then she wouldt hold back i think
So if any one in this group speaks and write dutch or know any groups in dutch that could help my wife please let me know
thank you

hugs Mellissa

SophieLawson · Post by **SophieLawson** » Sat Sep 11, 2004 3:17 am

Hiya Mellissa,

Welcome

Hope everything with your wife is cool and you are happy happy happpy

Sophie xx

Amelie-Laveau · Post by **Amelie-Laveau** » Sat Sep 11, 2004 8:50 am

Hello Mellisa, We welcome Dutch Euro-Trash, I'm just plain trash from Baltimore.
Sounds like your wife is understanding, unless she hits you with the rolling pin.
Just take it slow with your wife, it's a lot for her to take in.
Good luck and take your finger out of the dyke.
Love Amelie

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sat Sep 11, 2004 9:40 am

Hi Mellissa,

Welcome to the forum. I totally agree with what Sharon(SO) said about you telling you wife.

It's not going to be easy going forward, but there's lots of excellent advice in the forum that can assist you with what happens after you tell your wife.

Regardless. We're glad you're here.

Beauty

Love (SO) · Post by **Love (SO)** » Sat Sep 11, 2004 10:43 am

Hello Mellissa,

Welcome to the forum

I'm glad to hear you told your wife, Bravo!!

(Remember to always keep the lines of communication open, and be prepared to stay up many nights with your wife talking)

I also agree with everything that Sharon(SO) said.This forum has helped me (I'm a wife of a CD) to understand my husband a bit more and I'm sure it could be helpful for your wife too

Eloise Goth · Post by **Eloise Goth** » Sat Sep 11, 2004 10:46 am

Amelie-Laveau wrote: Good luck and take your finger out of the dyke.
Love Amelie

the images I had when I read that....

Carol Ann · Post by **Carol Ann** » Sat Sep 11, 2004 7:17 pm

Hi Mellisa, and a very big

. Sorry I am so late but wanted you to know we have a lot of lithographers on this board. I like the rest of my sisters think it is good you came out to your wife life will be so much easyer ??? if your wife understands, it takes time. Hugs Carol Ann

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 1:24 am

Thank you all for your kind words
And yes it was very hard coming out to my wife but it kept eating me inside so i had to tell her couse she's to sweet to lie to she was shocked but is still here
so i think we can work it out ill let her set the terms and pace on how we go on now so ill have to be patient
But i feel releaved that i dont have to hide something important like this from her
I would realy like if she came in here to talk to other So's so she can exchange thoughts with them and maybe get some tips on how to deal with it
Bad thing is her english is not to good so i dont know if she express on how she feels in english
but i'm aware she feels very betrayed by me and i will have to work hard to regain her trust in me a simple boeket of roses wont do the trick here
I have to deal with it to know couse i cant hide it now and i feel how she looks at me thinking what i'm wearing under my pants (but i think she knows what i'm wearing do)
but it takes getting used to

And on a happier note
getting my finger out of the dyke hmmmm not sure if i want to hhaha depends on what kind of dyke you mean hahaha

thanks a million your support means a lot to me

CJ · Post by CJ » Sun Sep 12, 2004 2:46 am

Hi Melissa,

Welcome to the forum!

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." As far as your relationship with your wife goes, you've taken that step. Bravo!

I look forward to hearing more from you soon.

Love,
CJ