Hello

Tammy(SO) · Post by **Tammy(SO)** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 9:16 am

My name is Tammy.

I am 32 years, married SAHM. My husband is dabling in cross dressing. Just looking for a safe place to talk.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 9:28 am

Hi Tammy!!!!

Welcome to the forum!

It's great to have another SO here!

You now have access to the SO Only area.

Have fun! It's GREAT to have you here.

By the way, lot of gals ask where did CD's get their legs from.

Congrats on finding a wonderful man who has a great pair!

Beauty

Tammy(SO) · Post by **Tammy(SO)** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 9:40 am

Thanks allot. This is something that has for the most part been great for both us.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 9:54 am

Hi Tammy,

I read your posts about his dressing also driving you a tiny bit crazy because of how much he wants to dress.

Be firm and do not let him push you around with his dressing. If you are not firm your hubby will occasionally become self-absorbed and forget his role as you husband. This can't be allowed. I've heard many of these stories.

It will settle down when he realizes he can't eat all of the candy in the candy store without paying a price monetarily and physically.

I suggest you tell him as soon as you can that you don't want him to stop dressing (make sure you say that first) "trust me"

But then tell him the things you'd like to do too. Tell him it's not conditional, but you'd like to do more things together (not dressed) as a married couple.

His freedom should help you become freer to request things from him as your husband. I can't stress how important it is that if you do this don't make it seem like, "You can dress, if . . ." Just explain how you've been accepting of him, but you aren't receiveing anything in return for your acceptance. Explain that you've felt like since you've accepted him he's been doing less to make you feel like you're his life mate.

Best of luck to you and your hubby!!

Beauty

Tammy(SO) · Post by **Tammy(SO)** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 10:00 am

Thanks allot.

You know just recently it has become weird for me. So I am trying to figure out my wants and needs in all this.
I really liked the "kid and in a candy store" Very true for him right now I think.

How great I found this place. I am already feeling much better.

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 10:16 am

TammySO wrote:Thanks allot.
. . .
How great I found this place. I am already feeling much better.

You're welcome!!! and YAY!!!! $\:D/$

You're making lots of us CD'rs feel better too as we struggle to understand how our SO's feel and that there are SO's out there who will accept us.

Open and honest posts like yours do a world of good!

I hope to read more from you later.

Beauty

p.s. Kay I promise I didn't see your post about the "candy store" until after I posted that one. Can we just chalk it up to, "Great minds think alike?"

Seriously though, I didn't know that was a cd'ing syndrome. You gals are really starting to get a real handle on our behaviors!

Tammy(SO) · Post by **Tammy(SO)** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 10:35 am

Well, I can understand all of that. I think it has been, strange, exciteing and scary for both me and my DH. And I desperatly want to us both to be happy and comfortable.

I'll chit chat later. I need to go pick up my son from school.

GalicianGirl(SO) · Post by **GalicianGirl(SO)** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 12:59 pm

Hi TammySO,
Welcome!!! It's really great to have another SO join our group.

Hope to read more of your posts soon...

Sharon(SO)

Geena · Post by **Geena** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 6:14 pm

Hi TammySO,and

This is the perfect place to be. It`s very safe, and friendly here, so enjoy the forum, and have fun

Hugzzzz,
Geena

Amber(SO) · Post by **Amber(SO)** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 7:48 pm

Tammy,
Welcome from another SO! It's great to have you here. I'm so glad you found us. We have a fantastic bunch of friends here who share our good days as well as bad. I hope you find what you need here.

I hope to here more from you soon.

XOXO, Amber

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 8:11 pm

Hey Tammy(SO),
It is so good of you to join our group. We really value the input of SO's on this forum. I hope you find answers to your questions, and don't forget to enjoy yourself. This is a learning experience for you both!

Hugs,
Kyra

CJ · Post by CJ » Fri Mar 19, 2004 9:38 pm

Hi Tammy,

Welcome aboard!

I hope you enjoy yourself and find the support you need. It's a wonderful bunch of gals here, of all persuasions and genders (oh, and there's Gaven too, of course!

). It's always good news when a new SO drops in. I hope to read more from you soon.

Love,
CJ

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Fri Mar 19, 2004 9:44 pm

Welcome, I know that yuo will find some truly wonderful folks here. WE are all traveling a road that offers help when ever we need it. Hopefully your "hubby" will take a look at what this forum can offer as well.
Again, welcome,
Deborah

RikkiOfLA · Post by **RikkiOfLA** » Sat Mar 20, 2004 5:23 am

Hi Tammy,

Sounds like you have a very healthy point of view, with the potential for a lot of balance to bring to a great relationship! Keep sharing with us; this is the best place on the web.

ps. What is a SAHM? (I tried to guess what the initials stand for, but didn't get very far.)

Josey · Post by **Josey** » Sat Mar 20, 2004 7:49 am

Hi Tammy,

I wanted to add my welcome to the list.

Beauty did a wonderful job with her suggestion. It is one of the best pieces of advice I've seen in a long time. Good going, Beauty.

Tammy, I look forward to reading more of your posts.