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I recently had time to spend several days dressed. I usually only get a night or an afternoon out, but I had several day to spend in face.

Needless to say it was a buzz. But here is my dilemma, I had plans on day 1 to take a bunch of pics and generally just hang which I did and it went well. On day 2 the plan was to get more womenly 1st Iwent to the wig store and got a new wig, spent way to much. Then I cruised the mall and criused several other stores. Had no problem and I am sure Iwas read several times but no one seems to care. On day 3 the problems began. I had plans to clean the house, dishes vacumn, laundry etc. and I just couldn't make that happen. I got up got dressed took a few pics and then began the chores. I just couldn't stay focused. I did get some of everything done but I couldn't complete and I totally spaced out some of the things I planned. It was like I was stoned (Iwasn't) and just couldn't focus. I did however get out to the mall again but had very little interaction which is fine.
Now today I haven't dressed and don't plan to but I did complete all the chores I planned oncompleting and several other tasks.
I wonder do any other of you suffer from the same problem. I is like I am a blonde and I didn't even wear my blond wig. Thanks.. .. Spacey Sallee

Hi Sallee,

Congrats on having your 3 days of fun. I can't say I've really ever experienced that buzz you had where it turned into a fog, but who knows if it won't happen one day.

Thanks for posting about your experience. I'm happy you had a good time.

At first it was just too exciting so I didn't get much done. Also there is some stuff that is just more comfortable in jeans and tees to accomplish. Like I don't want to get my nice femme clothes messy sometimes.

But times that I have been able to stay dressed for days at a time (only a couple of times) after the initial buzz wears off I find I enjoy focusing on the tasks at hand and doing them. Makes the whole thing seem more real.

Andrea

Hi Sallee,
Last year the wife went to Germany for two weeks and I got to dress everyday all day for two weeks. Now the first 3 or 4 days I had a ball, dressed and went shopping everthing I could think of. But to be honest after 5 days I was wiped out as putting on makeup getting dressed rippen and running took its toll on me. I did however find it hard to just relax dress and do the normal things you do every day around the house.
I will say I did enjoy myself over all. As a side note I don't see how a women can wear heels all day a still be comfortable. Carol Ann

I know exactly what's you're talking about, Sallee.

You can get so focused on just the act of dressing that everything else becomes a blur. I don't get as much time to dress as I would like, since my wife just kind of tolerates it and doesn't want to see. On the times she has been out of town, at first that's all that exists is just dressing.

I've now gotten to the point that I can just be happy dressed and go about my routine. It's a great place to be as you can do those things you need to do and feel your sense of accomplishment, and still get to look in the mirrors and admire yourself!

It's just a progression thing.

Pauline
From the response I am getting the dressing fog seems to be the norm for starters. WhenI come out of the fog the dressing kind of losses its thrill but when I have continued to stay in face seeing myself in a mirror or the window reflection is a real rush and makes putting the face on worth it. So I continue to run around in a dress for awhile longer. I have never spent more than 4 days in a row dressed and then it was at a convention after 4 days it was kind of nice being a guy or maybe I was just combining genders in boy mode.
I guess the fact that it gets old means I am just a cross dresser, which is Okay ...Sallee...

Sallee

I guess the fact that it gets old means I am just a cross dresser, which is Okay ...Sallee...

I think it's fair to say that. Unless one is living full time, few of us have the opportunity to dress for any length of time, so for many, the thrill (or hint of thrill) is likely always there. Before I came out to anyone, I would always look forward to a dressing opportunity with such anticipation that it would became all-consuming in the days preceding it. However, that level of excitement was tempered with a deep feeling of disappointment at having to put the clothes away again afterwards. The range of emotions within a matter or 24 hours were incredible. Back then, I would cram in as much as I could in the little time I had - trying on as many different outfits as I had available (either borrowed or my own). Also, different makeup looks, stuff like that. Not forgetting to leave myself enough time to put everything back again before my wife got home. (OK, how many of you ever did that, only to leave yourself less and less time to get cleaned up?)

Now if something happened that prevented me from enjoying my dressing opportunity, I remembered feeling really down for days afterwards.

Nowadays though, I'm fortunate enough to have many more opportunities than I used to and also don't have to hide anymore. The range of emotions I just described have levelled out considerably and I think that has more to do, not just with opportunity, but with how we feel about ourselves.

Getting back to what you said there Sallee, when you have more opportunity then it's only natural that the novelty will wear off after a while. The good thing is that as CD's our desire to dress, whether for just a day or longer, will always be there. With you having four days to enjoy your femme self, it must have felt like that vacation to a place you always wanted to go. However, once there, it wasn't what you imagined, hence the fog you described. As a crossdresser, we do spend a lot of dress up time trying to pretty ourselves up and that takes a lot of effort. Sustaining that for a period of time is hard work! Ask any woman. But many CD's tend to dress as though they're going out on the town, rather than for comfort. Why, because we feel prettier and sexier when all dressed up than we might in a pair of jeans and a T. Nothing wrong in that of course. That's part of the fun.

You described doing quite a lot of things in those first couple of days which sounds more like 'cramming' to me. Compare it to a sprinter taking part in a marathon. He might be the quickest out of the blocks, but do you think he'll make it to the finish line first. Nope. You have to pace yourself. Perhaps you expended all that energy (anticipation) in those first couple of days that you had nothing left to see you though to the end? Makes sense to me.

Glad you got to enjoy that time to yourself but maybe next time, just take it in stride and do whatever 'feels' right. If it means throwing on some jeans and a T, do it. I think as you get more in tune with yourself, that part should come naturally.

Stephanie

Stephanie
Good point take it slow and easy. I know by the 3rd or 4th day I am intodressingin jeans and gettig more casual. thanks..

How odd. I have trouble relating to dressing burnout, or to being in a fog being causally related to how I dress. I can be in a fog no matter what I wear. I never tire of dressing. I think I get more done en femme than en drab. I even finished-up an oil-change (in the driveway after dark) in a short dress and heels.

Heels are another matter, but if I have chores to do (besides just sitting), I wear nurse shoes or loafers or flat sandals or Keds. For some unknown reason, jeans just are not in my vocabulary of casual femme clothing. I will wear cullottes, or shirtdresses, uniform dresses, or very casual skirts/tops. I can wear jeans when I am NOT alone.

I don’t put on my face to do chores around the house. Perhaps that is part of my secret to avoiding burnout.

Right now I can dress for several hours at a time two to three days a week. Perhaps that is why the need to try everything on again is not so strong for me - unless I have recently lost some weight! Perhaps it is because I have an ostentatiously large collection of things to wear. At least this gives me an incentive to be very selective about further additions.

Perhaps my experience is simply that of one who has been crossdressing for 40 years. I do vaguely remember the thrill, and how I would spend all my available time alone building a wardrobe and trying everything on.

Hugs,

Bernice