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Well gurls, I think that its finally happening. I could be wrong, but according to the evidence, I might be right. Let me explain. I have been married 37 years with my wife, and she has known for all of those years, that I am a crossdresser. She refused to acknowledge it, but she knew that I was. Well in the past month or so, I have been walking around the house, wearing my bras, and padding them. Walking right in front of her. Normally, she would have made some rude comment. But now, she hasn't said anything at all. And I know that she sees my boobs, cause I wear a 42 C. Naturally, I am overjoyed. But how do I handle this? I would really like some input from everyone who would like to, and especially some comments from the gg's. Thank you all so much. Steffi

Hi Steffi,

Your wife may be resigned to the idea that nothing she says will make a difference, so she just won't say anything. However, she may be giving off some signal that you haven't picked up on.

For me and my wife, it's in the eyes. She won't say anything, but I can tell whether she is ok with the breast forms or not. I don't wear them very often anyway.

I suggest not flaunting your breasts in front of her too often. Let her get used to them gradually. Watch for those body tells that signal her discomfort or her holding back.

Thanks for your input. What I didn't mention, and probably should have was for the past six months she has been chair bound with a disease that she has. Therefore, I have to do most everything for her. Meaning , I make the meals, do the laundry etc. Which I don't mind doing at all. Along with doing all of the chores at home, I also have a full time job that I work at. I'm thinking that she has figured that If I can do all of this for her and not gripe, then maybe its ok to let me dress up and not say anything. What do you think. Input anyone?

It could be that she feels that she is utterly dependent on you because of her incapacitation that she fears expressing her true feelings.

Sorry to hear of her illness. Will she improve with time?

In this case, I'd suggest you discuss it with her, calmly.

Thanks for your compassion, everyone that has answered this post, but I am afraid to say that the perdicament that my wife is in, is her own fault. she has control over the disease and chooses not to do anything about it. She has been told by her doctors what to do, and she refuses to do it. Therefore her legs have so much water in them that they look like baloons. I don't want to sound hard hearted towards her, but she has put me through her kind of hell through the years and I stuck it out. That is why I am thinking now that she is (hopefully) realising that there is nothing wrong with crossdressing. Thank you again very much Steffi

Hi Stef,
I am sorry to learn of your situation. My only comment is that you still need to be understanding and try and get her to talk to you about her feelings about Stef! None of us are qualified "shrinks" and not knowing your home life and the situation in your home it is difficult to give specifics. Only that communication is the key. If she feels that Stef is doing an "in your face," life style change she may be rebelling in the only way she feels she can. Talk to her, after being married as long as you have there has to be a strong bond there and you really are carrying the obligation to try and get her to talk with you about how she feels about Stef and from there you can make what/if any adjustments that she may want!
Good luck and please keep us posted as not only do we care, but some of your sisters here could be living is similiar circumstances and how you handle this may give them some insight as well.
Love,
Virginia