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Unlike most CD's I began late in life. I had always admired women who dressed nicely and were good at doing makeup. To me it seemed they loved being girls and I was always curious as to what it must be like to put on a nice dress and walk in high heels. I kept these thoughts to myself, after all this curiosity must mean I was gay and didn't know it.
In the late seventies and early eighties I began to notice articles in newspapers and on TV that were about men who dressed as women. I was intrigued, what they were talking about were thoughts I had myself. These thoughts consumed a lot of my time and would not go away. I had been with my wife only a few years then and I knew that acting on them would end our relationship. But it seemed I had to do something or go nuts. So I sat down with her one day and told her how I felt. We both ended up in tears. We concluded that if I were to shave my legs and try on pantyhose that I'd feel silly and this would just go away. Well it didn't and only made me more curious. One day she gave me a skirt she didn't wear anymore and things just seemed to snowball from there. Even though she was uneasy about all this she bought me high heels and a bra and a few tops. Over the years we began to discover my feminine side and things really began to make sense when we joined a support group and met others. I have been out with her as Jennifer many times but I could not have done it without her support. It was not easy for her by any stretch of the imagination, but we got here together.
My teenage daughter from a previous relationship discovered my secret and things got really bad between us for a lot of years. Older now she understands and accepts my feminine side and things are fantastic between us. But more on this later as I get more involved here.

So nice to have found this site!
Jenn

What a great post. Jenn! I hope you know how fortunate that you are? I guess I am also, the major difference is my waife does not want to meet Deborah, at least not yet. She has howver, like your wife and you have discovered that it is not so much the crossdressing as it is releasing the woman within us and sharing those feminine emotions with those we come in contact with. That is the "gift" that come with Cd'ing and evidently you have discovered it as well. Keep posting and let your wife participate if she isn't already/
Love ya,
Deborah

Jenn, That is a great post. I am wondering about the daugther thing thou, as my greatist fear outside of losing my wife is my daughter. I think my son would be ok after awhile but my daughter is too much like me and very hard headed about some things and me being the Knight as the other thread put it very important to her. So I am awaiting impatiently for the "Rest of the Story" Gee

Jennifer wrote: So I sat down with her one day and told her how I felt. We both ended up in tears. We concluded that if I were to shave my legs and try on pantyhose that I'd feel silly and this would just go away. Well it didn't and only made me more curious. One day she gave me a skirt she didn't wear anymore and things just seemed to snowball from there. Even though she was uneasy about all this she bought me high heels and a bra and a few tops. Over the years we began to discover my feminine side and things really began to make sense when we joined a support group and met others. I have been out with her as Jennifer many times but I could not have done it without her support. It was not easy for her by any stretch of the imagination, but we got here together.
Jenn

Hi Jenn,

Your statement above is probably a perfect example of how to handle this with ones wife. You have set a good example and I thank you for posting it. I wish you all the luck with further growth. My daughter also found out about Josey and is now my best friend in addition to being my daughter.

Thanks Jenn.

Hi Jennifer,

That's awesome!!!

Congrats on telling your wife and learning to accept yourself.

You may not be in the norm around here (regarding dressing early vs. starting late) but I imagine those who start later in life aren't as likely to post as you are. We do have a few who posters here who started late.

I think it's awesome that you told your wife!! That's really awesome, as Josey noted above.

Beauty

Fabulous post Jenn!

It's great that things have turned out for you the way they have!!!

Hugs,
Stef