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A few weeks ago I decided to go to a therapist. I am so glad I did. It was hard to find one that works with ladies like myself. She is in Mobile which is about 45 minutes away. We sat down and had a cup of coffee in her office. We talked about family, friends and some about my boyfriend. She also asked me if I feel feminine if I am ever in my boy clothes. I said yes. I always do have something feminine on. It was so nice to talk to her about everything.

It was hard to find a therapist here on the Gulf Coast that helps CDers and transgender people. There are not many here. I think she might be the only one near the Mississippi Gulf Coast. I am happy I found her and I feel I can tell her just about everything. I am supposed to see her next week, I am so looking forward to it. I think she will be exactly who this girl needs to see.

She also told me of a support group in Mobile and a church in Mobile that caters to transgender people. I am thinking about looking up the church here shortly and might go attend.

Well have a good one all. I need to get things going here.

Lee Ann

Congrats LeeAnn, sounds like a good move.

LeeAnn wrote:She also asked me if I feel feminine if I am ever in my boy clothes. I said yes. I always do have something feminine on

May be that she was trying to find out to what degree you're TG. Like even if you're totally presenting as a guy, you still feel somewhat like a girl inside. I don't know, is that a fair comment - that you always have something feminine on because you always identify to a degree as female?

Good for you my dear friend , I am so happy to see you trying to get yourself all together .

That very well may be true Anthony. She also said that I might be a late bloomer because I am accepting myself more as I get older and not really caring how society sees me. I think I agree with that. I did tell her about the time I dressed in front of my wife (who did not approve) and maybe that is why I kept it in the closet in my mind for so long. I have always been a bit of a feminine guy and do believe I have a very strong woman side to me.

My experience with a therapist is that at least you have someone to talk to and that really helps alot.

Yes she really is nice. I loved talking to her and after about half way through I was talking about everything. I felt so good opening up to her and have her listen to me. She told he that it seems that I worry to much about what society and others think about my cross dressing. She said I should not worry about how others feel, I should be happy being me.

Hi LeeAnn--
It sounds like things are moving along nicely for you. Having a boyfriend is a big deal, too. I came close to having one, and it was scary and exciting at the same time. I hope the two of you are getting along OK.

LeeAnn

She told he that it seems that I worry to much about what society and others think about my cross dressing.

That's pretty much what mine told me.

Thank you all for saving me a trip to the therapist. You've confirmed what I thought (hoped) they would tell me and I can now spend that money on clothes.

Seriously, though, I do think that we as a society put too much stock into what others think about us. Be the best, most confident and happiest YOU you can be, and all the other stuff will fall into place. If people can't accept us for who we are (as people, not just CDs), how healthy can it be to remain around them? They expect it from us, why can we not do the same?

Thanks ladies. I have an appointment to see the therapist again this week. I am going to try to dress en femme. She also says she is going to call me by my female name. She is a great person to talk to and she is the only therapist in the general area that deals with transgender people.

As for the boyfriend. We got into a fight last Saturday and things are not too good at the moment. He wanted me to drop everything at 8:00 Saturday night, drive a little over 100 miles to go be with him. I told him I had things I had to do on Sunday and that it was too late. He kept badgering me until I finally said good buy and turned off my phone. I told hm the next day that when I say I cannot do something it means I cannot do it. I know that he will be leaving to go work off shore for a while and we will be separated again but that is the breaks.

Thanks again ladies. You have always helped me. You are all like therapist for me also. It is a great feeling to have friends here that I can talk to and get support from. Have a wonderful day!!!

Lee Ann

I highly recommend going to your therapist dressed. You are forced to drive there, check in, sit in the waiting room with other folks and see your therapist.(mine is a woman). Once you have accomplished this a few times you'll want to go shopping or just drive around feeling wonderful. You discover that no one really pays any attention. They all have their own agendas. That is unless you are wearing a beard and a tutu!

The good thing about my therapist is I do into have to sit in a waiting room, my session starts right at the time I am scheduled to be there. There is no one else out front. That is a nice thing.

I am going to ask my therapist today if it is OK if I come dressed tomorrow. I am so excited seeing her again. She was so nice last week. I can tell her about last Saturday lol (I had a bit of a fight with my boyfriend, he was acting very much controlling and I do not like that). I am looking forward to having me meet more people as who I want to be. I am Lee Ann and if people cannot handle her then that is their problem.

Have a good one ladies..... I have to get dressed and go to work. I am going to wear a camisole and bra under my clothes (like I have been doing for over a week). I am always wearing a bra anymore, it makes me feel so nice and feminine.

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Lee Ann

Please continue! Does your therapist support your coming dressed?

My therapist has no problem with me coming dressed.

Believe it or not, I have been struggling to find a therapist or support group who works with crossdressers, or people who have similiar concerns, but I do have a therapist who I have seen in the past, and was glad to start with her again. My initial goal was trying to figure out how to meet someone, but right now it is more important meeting with someone who listens to what I'm going through as far as increasing my feminization. Stick with it, consistency helps. Good luck.