Loving and Embracing my Femininty

[Toni_Lynn_P]

I have been thinking lately about how very much I love being feminine. I can't really imagine being any other way. I love the soft carress of my panties, the delicateness of the lace. I love the way my smooth shaved legs look in a skirt. I love the perkiness of my A cup breasts, an dthe ay they look in bra. I love the fact that I am soft and gentle, and cry without feeling that I have to be tough.

I love making myself look all pretty for me wife. I love picking out the right shade of lipstick, the right nai lpolish, the most lucsious of undies. I love it when she looks looks at me and wants ME, and ME alone because she loves to me so very happy this way.

Now this doesn't mean that I am weak or -- and I hate the term -- a s_ssy. I am, as Helen Ready sang in I Am Woman ..I am strong, I am invincible -- and that strength came about by being feminine and having to battle against those who hurt me.

My wife and I were talking about why she thinks crossdressers are cool and sexy.

She sees our quest for femininity as a work of art. She loves to paint and is great at it. Therefore she appreciates the art in the illusion.

The one thing that she has said about what makes a work of art particularly beautiful is when it has an "imperfection". Just as we humans are imperfect, the imperfection in the artwork makes it more beautiful. Think of a painting like Starry Night by Van Gogh. Its not a photograph and as an image is not a perfect view of what a starry night looks like. Or is it? When we look at, the imperfections bring forth much more beauty in the emotions that it stirs. Therefore because it it also draws forth emotion, can it not be said to be an even more perfect capturing of the scene.

And so it is with crossdressers. We may present as 'sexy girl', but the imperfection that is our male body shape against the otherwise perfect femininity of our bras and panties becomes a synergy. To her knowing that under the female guise is a guy, entices her. To add to the mix, for her, knowing that I am taking the trouble to look so pretty for her, yet not losing the obvious male attribute tells her how much I love her and think of her.

She has on occasion said women don't know what they are missing when they fail to accept a crossdresser as a husband.

Kinda neat, eh?

Hugs

Toni-Lynn

[Robyn]

Kinda neat, eh?

Yes it is! You have a good thing going Toni-Lynn, and I always enjoy reading your post.

Oh, and thanks to your other post with the links to SIL I think I finally found the slip I've been looking for, the"Dominique Full Slip", thank you.

[Mike P.]

Nice post, and I completely agree, it is a wonderful gift being able to appreciate being feminine, and I find that I want to do it more than just on the weekends. I really regret now not appreciating this amazing ability we have to enjoy such pleasures when I was younger, so I feel I'm catching up with my sexuality now. I don't know if others do this while home, but I like watching feminine shows, movies, and music videos, so this past weekend I felt so incredible getting in touch with my inner Princess! Snow White by the way. Anywho, I know we can do some things to feel more feminine during the work week, like painted nails, under wear, perfume, but it's not enough, especially when you have to deal with the hectic commute in NYC. I'm actually speaking with my female co-workers about doing more fem things, like maybe going to a spa, but what are some other suggestions for feeling fem when not at home? Thanks.
Samantha Jane

[Toni_Lynn_P]

I really regret now not appreciating this amazing ability we have to enjoy such pleasures when I was younger, so I feel I'm catching up with my sexuality now.

I know what you mean. I do however temper that regret with the fact that if it had been different then, the good of today may not be there.

But -- as I look at it, I did experience so many 'girl' things when I was younger -- just like any other girl. Things like the thrill of getting my first bra as a teen, my first experiments with makeup, my first high heals, and the first time I looked in the mirror, and saw that the girl I had been become -- all sweet and pretty and cute.

Its all good

but what are some other suggestions for feeling fem when not at home?

Obviously always being in bra and panties for one. One of my greatest thrills is sitting there knowing that I am wearing the same undies as a girl, say, on the bus. But I think that the biggest is not being afraid to embrace the 'girl-within' -- she is real and just like any other girl deserves to lavish herself freely in frills and lace. You are a girl in all but the anatomical, and so proudly buy your bras and panties and know that you too have very right to wear them

Hugs

Toni-Lynn

[Cyndi Tyler]

I dress as a project - it does not really work out to mix and match, one thing or the other. But when dressed it is wonderful, the feel of the clothes adds a totally new dimension and enhances the senses. It is strange in that I'm not attempting to be a woman, i just want to be what i think of uber-femme, presenting that fem pretty side, diminishing the hardness and shapes of my male side.