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I did allow my hair to grow down just below my ear lobes...but frustrated by the "ought's" and the "should's"...I mean the ghosts of my past upbringing and socialization, felt it was way out of cinc with the male presentation I was forced to have my entire life, through my childhood, military career and now being an old man...well older man at 62. I felt that I could not present that image anymore with hair that I considered to be very hard to manage and made it impossible to present the clean sharp image of my manly self which I was accustomed to over much or most all of my life. Thing is I was deep in a closet for the first part of my life, of course had to hide it in the military and then for family so when something is ingrained it is difficult once freed from the closet to get over.

Women have moods and emotions and go through the same thing...not feeling girly...feeling normal...or feeling rougher...more tomboyish. Hence the clothing they choose, amount of make up etc varies and for myself it is exactly the same thing...my baseline male is blah, one way...in the middle I am betwixt and between and can be more femm...then there is my girly girl feelings desiring all the bells and whistles with a cherry on top! How can I ever be anything but what I am? And I really do love who I am because I get to be everything girls are...how the hell could I ever live without all I have become accustomed to!? I am too much of a woman and would be very well insane if I could not be myself!!!

No...I am working to find my unique and personal niche...my way of openness meaning my being completely at ease and comfortable so that I am free to be who I am openly...I have to become accustomed to that and those who know me must also realize that I have been hiding, restraining and holding back who I have always been inside. I am finding daily that while I ...as this morning am dressed male...as my girl begins to awaken and to stir she is starting to cry out and want her ear rings in...and her knickers on....

This was supposed to be about hair...so let me finish In short I am allowing my hair to grow out to the length in my avitar from 6? or so years back? Yes... it is longer than just being "bushy" but it is not so long that I cannot present a male image...my male image...If my male is a little uncomfortable at times he is going to just have to get used to it and move aside because I need to be able to present a true female image that is enhanced with make up and ear rings. Anne has a right to be who she is...she is too much of who I am for my male side to have a right to push her aside forcing her to put up with a wig. A wig if you are able to grow hair is not any woman's preference, we want our own hair! We want to be able to style it and to look feminine and pretty and I know when it is long enough that this is possible for me.

Length? I will be looking to have a short woman's hair style which is longer in the back, not tapered like a man's, and somewhere close to but still above the earlobes and definitely never trimmed on top women need length!!!

Anne Bonny wrote:I did allow my hair to grow down just below my ear lobes...but frustrated by the "ought's" and the "should's"...I mean the ghosts of my past upbringing and socialization, felt it was way out of cinc with the male presentation I was forced to have my entire life, through my childhood, military career and now being an old man...well older man at 62. I felt that I could not present that image anymore with hair that I considered to be very hard to manage and made it impossible to present the clean sharp image of my manly self which I was accustomed to over much or most all of my life. Thing is I was deep in a closet for the first part of my life, of course had to hide it in the military and then for family so when something is ingrained it is difficult once freed from the closet to get over.

I have had all those same issues. Once I realized I was not going to get another job offer, I said to myself that I have nobody to impress anymore. Lots of older men have ponytails. I can grow one also. Yes, I'm a little unlike most of them because I shave, and yes, I've had a few remarks from chiropractors, foot doctors, grocery clerks, friends, and the like, but nothing hostile.

Long hair is a lot more work. Mine has been growing for two years, and still is only half way from my chin to my boobs. I'll never look like Crystal Gayle. But, shampoo is a lot cheaper than haircuts!

Hugs,

Bernice

Hi.

The preoccupation of hair.

Hmmm ,okay my friend next door is close to me and her daughter comes and stays at week end,s and of cause brings her daughter, so I spend a lot of time with them , if they go out to the shop the wee lass stays with me as I have lots she likes and can do, she is 3 well a bit over that, she has long hair so has pig tails or some other style .

Her Mom has no hair due to cancer, so wear,s a wig not long just to the shoulder, so yes we talk about these details and quite openly. as they know myself very well and of cause I have no hair,as most people know.

9 weeks ago one of our Edwardian members gave me a lovely short styled wig and more in keeping with my age at 72 as to colour now I will wear that at our meetup.s and that's all. it looks good for me though I was not sure it would suit well it does and from all the coments I have had and more natural

and as you all know I do get told what suits and is better for me I don't allways just ….I,m going to do this and care less what other,s say remember for us who are female we check in with each other in all things concerning our lives,s for us its just who and how we are,

what I,m saying is we talk about every thing no matter what the subject matter from clothes to makeup familys our kids and grand kids boy friends lover,s and any thing sexual is this not all part of life we are open , and we do it , ... we need ... need each other this is where it,s different for guys do they really talk as we do , I quess not it,s not hard to express our selfs, so find other,s who you can check in with and talk and ask for help in every thing , yes some trust is needed yet when you have that , its so much more fun because its about being open with each other, ,
...noeleena...