I just became one of the lucky ones

Arianne · Post by **Arianne** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 4:48 pm

You never know Karren, one day she may surprise you

Karren Hutton · Post by **Karren Hutton** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 4:53 pm

Actually I'm kind of glad in a way that she is not involved.... our tastes in womens clothing is 180 degrees off (she like jeans and bagy top....well I don't) lol , I get to decide what I want to wear and where I want to go enfemme..... She knows I still dress... just doesn't want to get involved...

Love Karren

Arianne · Post by **Arianne** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 4:57 pm

lol, I guess in some ways you have it, I must admit though, a nice pair of jeans and a sweat top over some nice lingerie is good too.

I guess I am still at the girly girl stage, the Alice in Wonderland look so to speak. My wife is helping out, which is great, and yet very intimidating at the same time. She is a jeans and tank top girl herself, so she does raise an eyebrow at some of my choices, but she did help me wax my legs today, so it isn't all bad. Stings like heck when the strip is yanked off, but ohhh what a lovely feeling when it is done.

I guess it all depends on how the personalities match up in the relationship.

Karren Hutton · Post by **Karren Hutton** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 8:11 pm

Hehe I don't have to amit anything about jeans.... ewwwwwww lol And my wife and my personalaties match well... she tells me what to do and I do it!!! Easy...

Love Karren

Arianne · Post by **Arianne** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 6:12 am

Thanks Karren, that got me laughing

Take care

Arianne

ShamrockFaerie(SO) · Post by **ShamrockFaerie(SO)** » Sat Jun 02, 2007 8:59 am

As a SO, I can say Virginia is RIGHT ON TARGET about hoe SOs feel about their husbands crossdressing. My husband has a similar story to yours. He went to VERY elaborate lengths to hide his behavior. For me, it was harder to accept the deception than it was to accept the crossdressing. I am bisexual, so I've dealt with pain and shame and embarrassment about who you are at the core, so I sort of understand why my husband lied to me. But that doesn't make me any less angry or feel any less betrayed. That is something my husband and I will be working on for YEARS to come.

That said, I am totally on board with my husband's crossdressing. We set boundaries (as soon as I was done screaming and cussing him out for lying through our entire relationship) that we both feel comfortable with, and we do talk openly about my husband's desires and how they fit with mine. My hubby and I are going "shopping" together for the first time today. I'm excited. But I aggree.... It's all about baby steps. I have accepted one ASPECT of this situation (the actual dressing) but I have not accepted that I married a man who told me NOTHING about his sexual needs and allowed me to believe he was satisfied by me while he sought sexual gratification secretly behind my back. In short, I feel like I've been cheated on. Until we have forged a new bond of trust, our relationship will not be completely mended, no matter how accepting I am of my husband's crossdressing. He has to make it up to me. He has to prove he's worthy of my trust. And that will take alot of time.

It sounds like your wife is in a similar place..... You have to give her time to "get to know" this other aspect of your personality, because you never gave her a chance before. You also have to prove over time that the lies and deception are over..... That you won't sneak around anymore. I'm glad she is at least open to your crossdressing and wants you to pursue it. But that trust bond is going to take a VERY long time to mend, and if she "finds" more panties or sees you engaging in secretive behavior, you'll have to start all over from the beginning again. Just be honest and open, and see where it goes. Good luck. You and your family will be in my prayers, and if your wife ever wants to talk, I'm here.

-Tiffany

Emily Ann Brown · Post by **Emily Ann Brown** » Mon Jun 04, 2007 1:07 pm

If it needs saying, pray to God for His giving you a wife who is in any fashion understanding. I just made my first alimony payment to one who never got beyond "I didn't marry no queer woman!" (and for the record I'm either a straight male or a lesbian depending on your viewpoint.)

Never forget that your partner can be your greatest supporter and asset.

Emily Ann

Josie (England) · Post by **Josie (England)** » Mon Jul 16, 2007 10:42 am

My partner of 17 years has known about Josie for about 15 of them, she found 'the photo collection' by accident, and was woried that I would leave HER! when she found out, she did not tell me for 6 months, anyway she did tell her best friend who is also a friend of mine (him!)

We have been to many outings and venues to-gether since, and are just getting our clothes sorted for ( Goodwwod Revival. Sept 30th.) a car race 'thing' here in UK for old race cars, very big, and ALL the famous names like to be there.

Partner now wants to be married as well, so, there you are, she knows, best friend knows, and all is well.

My one golden rule is, I dont 'push it' and know when to leave Josie in the wardrobe.

Huggz

Josie.

Ann Stef · Post by **Ann Stef** » Fri Oct 05, 2007 1:01 pm

My SO also shared my urge and helps out with proper fashion when going out.

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Sun Oct 07, 2007 10:44 pm

Hi, Di_amondgirl SO, and a huge welcome to the Forum!

Just a suggestion, but wander over to the New Members section, start a thread, say hello to everyone and tell us a bit about yourself! Either way, we're looking forward to your participation, so don't be shy!

*Hugs*

- SL

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