Any other single dad's out there?
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Laura Ashcroft
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Any other single dad's out there?
I am having a rough night with my 3 kids. Just wondering if there are any other single dad's out there. My kids are 13,11,&10, 2 girls and a boy, that order. They have been constantly at each other's throats for the last few days, and then rolling eyes and slamming doors in my face. I asked them tonight to clean their rooms, and WWIII broke out. God, I wish I could dress. I need to calm down. Hell, I do mom's job too, why not be able to wear the uniform? But can't. One more day and they are with their mom for a week.....one more day..... Anyone know this situation? I guess I am looking for a little empathy.
-- Laura
"Love is not put in the heart to stay, love is not love, until it's given away" - dunno who said it, saw it written on a rock
"Love is not put in the heart to stay, love is not love, until it's given away" - dunno who said it, saw it written on a rock
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Terri(SO)
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I'm not a single DAD, but you've got my empathy Laura!
I know that kids will work your last nerve and drive you to the edge. I just hope you have (and show) some appreciation for being able to have them go to Mom's for a week and you get some space of your own. My 3 are never gone with their Dad for more than a few hours at a time.
Look forward to having some fun dressing up while they are gone but just don't over do it this time
(just a little good natured ribbing there, k? 
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I know that kids will work your last nerve and drive you to the edge. I just hope you have (and show) some appreciation for being able to have them go to Mom's for a week and you get some space of your own. My 3 are never gone with their Dad for more than a few hours at a time.
Look forward to having some fun dressing up while they are gone but just don't over do it this time
(just a little good natured ribbing there, k? )Love is a verb. It's a doing thing. No action, no love! - Terri
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Laura Ashcroft
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Thank you for the empathy Terri. It is always nice to know someone out there can feel your pain 
. After giving myself a time-out, I am doing better now. I don't know if you have read my other posts about my kids and I, but since my oldest was born, my ex-wife and I worked opposite shifts. I worked days, she worked nights. So she had the kids after school, and I had them all night after 5. After the divorce we kept the same schedule. After a couple of years of being single with kids everynight, and trying to find time to date, I got to really resenting my kids, because I couldn't do anything. So it was at that point I talked to my ex about going week to week. She agreed to it, and for the last 2 years or so, it has been week to week, rather than every night. I SOOOOOO appreciate it, and normally, I have a lot more patience for them now. It has just been the last few days they have been acting up. Next week will be a nice recoup for me. I won't over do it. The "over doing it" I believe you are referring to was a bad night not caused by my kids. For a bad night like that it takes a woman (a little good natured ribbing back )
. After giving myself a time-out, I am doing better now. I don't know if you have read my other posts about my kids and I, but since my oldest was born, my ex-wife and I worked opposite shifts. I worked days, she worked nights. So she had the kids after school, and I had them all night after 5. After the divorce we kept the same schedule. After a couple of years of being single with kids everynight, and trying to find time to date, I got to really resenting my kids, because I couldn't do anything. So it was at that point I talked to my ex about going week to week. She agreed to it, and for the last 2 years or so, it has been week to week, rather than every night. I SOOOOOO appreciate it, and normally, I have a lot more patience for them now. It has just been the last few days they have been acting up. Next week will be a nice recoup for me. I won't over do it. The "over doing it" I believe you are referring to was a bad night not caused by my kids. For a bad night like that it takes a woman (a little good natured ribbing back )-- Laura
"Love is not put in the heart to stay, love is not love, until it's given away" - dunno who said it, saw it written on a rock
"Love is not put in the heart to stay, love is not love, until it's given away" - dunno who said it, saw it written on a rock
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Stef
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Hi Laura,
I know how you feel all to well. I have a 9 y/o son who suffers from bi-polor disorder. So long as his medications are right he is a good kid but every so often his meds stop working for him like they should and we have to find a new med or combination of meds that work, during those times he is 3 hands full. I love him with all my heart and soul but there are days when he tries my patience to the point I want to scream and usually end up crying after he goes to bed. He hasn't seen his mother since he was 4 but I'm lucky in that my mother is always happy to watch him for me.
Hugs,
Stef
I know how you feel all to well. I have a 9 y/o son who suffers from bi-polor disorder. So long as his medications are right he is a good kid but every so often his meds stop working for him like they should and we have to find a new med or combination of meds that work, during those times he is 3 hands full. I love him with all my heart and soul but there are days when he tries my patience to the point I want to scream and usually end up crying after he goes to bed. He hasn't seen his mother since he was 4 but I'm lucky in that my mother is always happy to watch him for me.
Hugs,
Stef
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Elizabeth
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Hi Laura,
I am a single dad. While my divorce is not quite final yet, I do have my oldest son, who will be 18 in days, full time, and my 13 and 10 year olds most weekends. and until a month ago, had all three of them full time. I also have a 21 year old daughter who lives with my exwife.
I have come out to my kids though, and all thier friends. My crossdressing is not a secret, and I don't have to wait to dress. This however does not keep them from being a handful. So I can totally understand what you are going through. Take a deep breath, and remember they know where all your buttons are, and I am sure they use that to thier advantage, if they are normal kids. Sorry I can offer no more than my empathy.
Love always,
Elizabeth
I am a single dad. While my divorce is not quite final yet, I do have my oldest son, who will be 18 in days, full time, and my 13 and 10 year olds most weekends. and until a month ago, had all three of them full time. I also have a 21 year old daughter who lives with my exwife.
I have come out to my kids though, and all thier friends. My crossdressing is not a secret, and I don't have to wait to dress. This however does not keep them from being a handful. So I can totally understand what you are going through. Take a deep breath, and remember they know where all your buttons are, and I am sure they use that to thier advantage, if they are normal kids. Sorry I can offer no more than my empathy.
Love always,
Elizabeth