Mixed signals

Post by **DonnaT** » Fri Apr 06, 2007 2:37 pm

Last week my wife and I talked about me going to see my mother in WV on Easter weekend.

I figured that would be a good time, and Sunday I let my mom know.

My wife said she couldn't believe I was going pass up going to the club in Richmond (TG nite on first Fridays of the month).

I said I could do both, stop in Richmond on the way, then leave from there and head on over to WV. I've done it before.

My wife says, "I don't want to know about it."

Today she calls my cell, wondering about supper tonight.

She says, "I was wandering what to do. You haven't talked about what all you're doing tonight." Even though she knows.

I'm thinking, "but you didn't want me talk about it."

Ahhh, love those mixed signals.

Carla L · Post by **Carla L** » Fri Apr 06, 2007 10:15 pm

Wait till you get older and you get mixed signals and can't remember what you told her..

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 11:52 am

Donna, do you often get mixed signals like this? If so, it could be a not-so-mixed signal afterall. Maybe she just doesn't know how to talk to you about it.

K

Kimberly Kael · Post by **Kimberly Kael** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 12:01 pm

Kyra wrote:Maybe she just doesn't know how to talk to you about it.

That's a pretty reasonable insight. As hard as it is for me to explain myself sometimes, it must be doubly awkward for my wife! I can easily imagine her wanting to know what I'm up to, but at the same time not feeling 100% comfortable with the discussion. One of the things I'm starting to pay more attention to is how and when I project being uncomfortable talking about subjects myself. I feel that the more comfortable I am, the easier it will be for her.

Georgia(SO) · Post by **Georgia(SO)** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 12:05 pm

DonnaT -

My thoughts when I read your post were that she may have been telling you that she wanted to know if you were going to be home or going out, but she didn't want the details about where you were going and what you would be doing if you were going out.

I often feel that way - but DISCLAIMER, DISCLAIMER, DISCLAIMER - results vary with individuals and shouldn't be taken as an insight into the psyche of a woman I've never met!

-g(so)

Karren Hutton · Post by **Karren Hutton** » Sat Apr 07, 2007 2:59 pm

Mine never gives mised signals..... She signals and I do what ever she says.... lol. But with my failing hearing i sometimes don't hear the entire thing, so I guess and almost always WRONGly...

Karren

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Mon Apr 09, 2007 7:50 am

Maybe it was a friendly overture or maybe she hoped you were doing something else or maybe she just wanted to chat........ask her in a way that lets her know that you'll be okay with whatever the answer is.

Absaroka