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Cindy Louise · Post by **Cindy Louise** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 2:17 am

How on gods green earth do women have this done on a regular basis!!

My wife and I went to get a coffee at our regular shack and there's a waxing salon next door where they're running a two for one deal.

On the spur of the moment my wife announces "I'm getting my eyebrows done!" next thing I know I'm in the salon getting a free eyebrow wax (still don't remember agreeing to it ).

So there I am in the chair with Jenny my waxing professional making small talk when she asks if it's my first time, I say yes it is and then she says well don't worry it doesn't hurt.

"it doesn't hurt" ranks up there with Noah looking out the ark window and proclaiming it's only a passing shower, It'll blow over.

Now I must admit the wax did feel nice when it went on...yeah they design it that way too lure you into a false sense of security. Then "Jenny" who I think trained with the CIA as an information retrieval specialist AKA interrogator put this this strip of cloth on the wax rubs it down then without a word of warning rips it off along with countless innocent hairs.

HOLY S*** I fell like the left side of my face was pulled off....I left finger grooves in the arms of the chair!!

She smiled and said that wasn't to bad was it? there half done. Oh joy another one to go. Ten minutes later after some post waxing tweezing I have nicely shaped brows and a strong desire to kill my smiling wife as she greeted me in the lobby.

NEVER.....NEVER AGAIN FIRST AND LAST TIME.

To all the ladies who get this done all I can say is you're braver than me.

Ladies I salute you.

Yours painfully,
CL

Susan · Post by **Susan** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 2:31 am

Cindy

Like you I have not had the 'pleasure' but I believe it gets easier for follow up treatments. I will leave a more definitive answer to those who have experienced this.

Erica S · Post by **Erica S** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 7:23 am

Cindy, I am not sure how you did it. I have seen and understand that it is painful. More power to you girl. I have no first hand experience in this, not sure I want it either, so I can not comment and say good things or bad. It just seems painful to me. Glad you were able to bear it as best as you did.

Hugs,

Erica

Post by **DonnaT** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 10:55 am

Never done it either, but I hear it hurts worse the longer the hair is that is being removed. And I hear it gets easier after a few more times. YMMV

Melyssa Anne · Post by **Melyssa Anne** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 11:25 am

It does get easier -- I get my brows waxed every 4-5 weeks (when I get my hair done) It's to the point where there is a little bit of pain, but the lotion etc makes it all better. Nobody said getting beautiful was easy!!!

And it does make a difference -- my brows are shaped and always look nice -- and my stylist doesn't make them too thin. Even if I wasn't doing it for my female me, I probably would do it for my professional male me.

Leeza · Post by **Leeza** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 12:42 pm

I agree with Melissa, The more you do it the less painful it is.

My first time there was some pain, but I still prefered the wax to the tweezers.

Leeza

Carolynn · Post by **Carolynn** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 1:07 pm

I have my brows waxed every couple of weeks. Makes tweezing much less painful in between waxing, and I much prefer getting it over with quickly. Leg and arm waxing is not too bad, but then I usually use an epilator that yanks the hairs out on my legs and arms. So, maybe I am used to it.

Carolynn

Melyssa Anne · Post by **Melyssa Anne** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 1:45 pm

oh yes...waxing wins over tweezing every time!

Kimberly Kael · Post by **Kimberly Kael** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 2:46 pm

Cindy Louise wrote:How on gods green earth do women have this done on a regular basis!

As others have pointed out it does get easier. Hair grows back in different phases and you're generally re-waxing only a portion of the hair you removed the first time. I also find fine hair easier than coarser hair so that helps, too.

... but if you think a brow wax is painful you should think twice about anything else. It's pretty mild compared to getting your legs, chest, or bikini area waxed. The denser the growth the more you feel it, but there are also areas of the body that are more sensitive. I think my toes were probably at the top of that list!

Laser is a step up again, and I hear electrolysis is at yet another level. I'd always heard that women had higher pain thresholds to prepare them for childbirth but I think in practice these routines are partly to build that level of tolerance. I've been told that a lot of women don't take waxing/laser treatments nearly as gracefully as I do!

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 8:14 pm

I think I'll stick with the infinite number of bee stings from electrolysis. At least as the session progress in a spot, your senses automatically dull the pain. And like waxing, the regrowth is smaller easier to deal with the next time. Nice thing is after the billion stings, the hairs are permanently gone.

I bet the total pain from waxing is equal to the total pain of any other effective hair removal process. It's all about how much time you spend dieing in agony during and after the process(es) to reach permanent removal.

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Mon Mar 28, 2011 8:44 pm

To quote the wise old sage, 'beauty is NOT painless!'...lol

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:31 am

A better question might be how did hairless get equated with beautiful? Is it yet another one of society's attempts to turn women back into girls? Or just another way to create a need for a product?

I understand transwomen wanting to remove unwanted hair, just as they remove other things with far greater cost and pain. But hair on GG bodies? Who told women this was bad in the first place?

Anthony Simon · Post by **Anthony Simon** » Tue Mar 29, 2011 8:48 am

Absaroka wrote:A better question might be how did hairless get equated with beautiful? Is it yet another one of society's attempts to turn women back into girls? Or just another way to create a need for a product?

Just exactly what (and who defines) is feminine is one of those questions. "Product" certainly does come into it in this society. After all here's something that "needs" to be done again and again over the life of a woman. And there's a whole fashion industry selling stuff like that. Like any industry it needs saleable product (indeed without it it doesn't exist).

Personally I think there's a whole lot of things in "femininity" which are to do with exaggerating the differences between men and women, the better to define a "male" and a "female" zone. I think a lot of the things we do as CDers play on those differences, which are to do with (a lot of the time) enacting a societal idea of femininity. I mean, why do women have to have "shaped" eyebrows?

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Tue Mar 29, 2011 9:45 am

Anthony Simon wrote:I mean, why do women have to have "shaped" eyebrows?

Because big, bushy, forest-like eyebrows don't look right on them?

Anthony Simon · Post by **Anthony Simon** » Tue Mar 29, 2011 1:41 pm

Michelle Miller wrote:
Anthony Simon wrote:I mean, why do women have to have "shaped" eyebrows?
Because big, bushy, forest-like eyebrows don't look right on them?

Well, full disclosure:- I actually have big, bushy, forest-like eyebrows, which I like as a man because they balance what is otherwise quite an androgynous face. But then the problem is when dressing up, then they get in the way of the effect. On occasion I have used eyebrow wax (with less than enormous competence, like the rest of my makeup) which covers them up. This does noticeably increase the feminity of my face, but I doubt that I would be able to wear it out (if I were to go out) unless my makeup skills improved very considerably.

There is a school of thought that says Brooke Shields has bushy eyebrows and it hasn't done her any harm. But, if you actually look at her face, her eyebrows and nose and mouth together form a satisfying, coherent pattern pretty much just as they are. In my opinion, that's how she can get away with her brows, because her whole face works with them pretty much untouched (but then that begs the question as to why).

FWIW, my current technique is to diminish and flatten my brows with foundation and powder at the same time as the foundation and powder goes on the rest of the face. That seems to work OK with a wig with a fringe. I think it would probably be passable if I ever went out, but have yet to find out. Women do play all sorts of games with their brows which you can see if you look closely.

I might be able to get away with my brows if I were enacting a City (i.e financial) professional or someone like that. The problem is if I were to do what Cindy did (i.e remove a lot of the hair with wax), it would just be terribly obvious and I'd have to explain why.

Neatness and control is some of the reason women are expected to have "shaped" brows. Women's hair (I mean the stuff we imitate with wigs) is so central to their image. Like out of control hair = out of control women (as in bad hair day). Untidy brows might be construed as an untidy woman, slovenly etc. But you could also argue that bushy brows are kind of aggressive and women are not expected to be aggressive (unless they're City professionals).

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