CDing becoming a "normal" part of my life

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

Those of you who are long-time members will remember that I used to post a fair amount, but lately I've been pretty quiet and I just wanted to talk about why.

It's pretty well known that a number of post-ops "disappear into the woodwork" after transitioning. While I think it's unfortunate in some ways (because they're not there to provide role models), I can certainly understand their desire to be "normal" for once in your life. I've been doing something similar, albeit for very different reasons.

Part of the reason I haven't been around here that much is other competing demands on my time (both life in general and being a mod on another forum). Part of it is just the normal dynamic of being a long-term member in a forum where topics tend to repeat themselves. (When you've seen threads on favorite panties 17 times before, it just gets hard to muster enough interest to reply to the latest one.)

But mostly it's because my crossdressing has become just another part of my life. (I do have some advantages here. I live in a trans-friendly area. I'm single, so I don't have to work through the relationship troubles that coming out to an SO can cause. (There is the whole dating issue, however...)

When I first went out, it was such a new and exciting experience, I felt the need to write about it in great detail each time I did it. But over time, I felt less and less need do so. But unless it was a special occasion, it was being "normal."

For example, a couple weekends ago this was my en femme outing: going to a boutique to get a leather jacket altered, stopping for a late lunch, checking out the sales at the department stores, realizing it was a clear day and driving up to Twin Peaks to admire the view. In short, pretty similar to a woman running errands on a Sunday afternoon. (And no I didn't call ahead to any of the stores I visited, I just want there and was treated like any other customer.) At this point it's just "normal," nothing to write about.

At this point, I usually go out a couple times a month. Sometimes it's to trans events, such as the monthly "girl's night out" dinner. Sometimes it's to trans-friendly spaces, like Marlena's, which hosts the Faux Girls show. (If you want to learn to boost your confidence, hanging out with DQ is a great way -- they don't take nuthin' from nobody.) But it's equally like to be going out to dinner with friends, shopping, going out to a local museum or concert, or just hanging out on the town.

So even if I'm not writing about it anymore, you can safely assume this weekend princess is out most weekends -- and being treated graciously and respectfully by the vast majority of people I interact with. I've told a number friends and several co-workers, who've all been pretty accepting. When I go shopping these days, if I'm en homme, I'm upfront that a skirt is for me (and bring along a photo of me en femme to show the sales clerks). In short, while I'm not fully out, it's now just another (enjoyable) part of my life.

Standard disclaimer: Going out of the house was right for me, it may or may not be right for you. If you've got no desire to leave the house, that's fine, I'm not trying to push you out the door. But for those who've been yearning to do so, I just want to let you the world may not be as scary a place as you think.

[Jess(SO)]

But mostly it's because my crossdressing has become just another part of my life

I an heartned to hear that... you don't know how much....... I so long for the day that my DH's cding is just that .......... a normal part of our everyday lives...... the constant running aroud trying to make time is wearying to say the least, then there are the times when he has the opportunity and can't be bothered, as they are few and far between it drives me up the wall....... yup I can understand the desire not to dress just because you have an available few hours to safely do it...... or at least I think I can............I find the inconsistency really annoying...... we had a week where he was free to dress most evenings and did and it was good I felt that it gave us both a chance to get to know Claire as a person rather than just a visitor in our living room for just a few hours a week...... and having had that week he is no konger willing to take Claire back into the bedroom where she had to remain before and I can understand that.......... so yes I am looking forward to the day that our cding becomes just another part of our everyday life

Jess

[Joann NJ]

Jess, what you just said is so much like our situation. My dear wife goes out of her way to make me happy.......... as I do her, [married 33 yrs.]. It becomes a chore to sneak around and find the time to dress, but while dressing, I want to also enjoy the change in gender persona.

A few weeks back, we went away for a long weekend and there were several outdoor shopping centers. We shopped as girls, and at times we went different ways, and this gave me the ultimate opportunity to expierience life enfemme.

I am going to be sure she reads your post, as we are planning to have a girls afternoon Sunday.........