Hello from a Newbie

Katy-Jane · Post by **Katy-Jane** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 1:18 pm

Hi SilverLady,

and a huge, warm welcome to this great place! I really enjoyed reading the thread that your "hello" post started, it was fascinating. It's wonderful to have you here, and I'm sure you'll meet loads fo great people.

have fun,

Katy-Jane

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 9:27 pm

Katy-Jane - -

Thank you for the warm welcome! I'm glad that you enjoyed reading this thread - - I agree, it's fascinating, but all true, too! Virginia refers to her 'Magical Mystery Tour', and I'm going to borrow that phrase because it applies to me, too!

This forum is all about discovering, learning, acceptance, sharing, support, and friendship - - and I'm finding all of that and more in the short time that I've been here.

- SilverLady

Carol B · Post by **Carol B** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 11:19 pm

My first thought was that I wanted to educate all of them of their erroneous beliefs that being a cd did not equal being gay; one of those friends is a Dr. - he should know better ::sigh::.

My wife, when I was first found out, asked her doctor if I was a problem to be around my daughter. He said that he was no expert, but that she should be more concerned with me being around her son (my step son) who is gay.

What a miss-informed stooge! Doctors are people and just as fallable as the rest of us. He needs to be more informed before giving an opinion. I am not surprised that your doctor friend was stonewalled to reply.

And BTW... Welcome SilverLady, pleased to make your acquaintance.[/quote]

SilverLady(SO) · Post by **SilverLady(SO)** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 12:57 am

Thank you, Carol - I'm pleased to make your acquaintance, too!

Personally, I've always felt that if you couldn't make an informed opinion - on any subject - then you shouldn't say anything at all. "A closed mouth gathers no foot!" When I'm not factually sure about something, I always preface it with "Well, I'm not really sure, but I would think that ....." or words along those lines. Remember the good ole saying about "cya" - and this is something that as a paralegal I had to make sure I did all the time!

The first impression is always the one that stays with someone, and in your case, the doctor's misinformed comments. If I were you, I would have provided the doctor with whatever literature you could about cd's (like from Tri-Ess, Rainbow Trail, etc.) so the doctor could, possibly, change his opinion. At the very least, you can say that you tried.

I hope that your life with the wife and kids are okay, especially in light of the doctor's comments!

Carol B · Post by **Carol B** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 6:56 am

I hope that your life with the wife and kids are okay, especially in light of the doctor's comments!

Actually, things could not be better!

It has taken time and honest, open discussion. Things have turned around for my marriage, but that's for another thread.

After some extensive web research, my wife switched doctors.

I've not had big problems with my step son, other than some bumpy teenager things that we have out grown.

Stephanie H · Post by **Stephanie H** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 8:32 pm

Welcome to the group. Looking forward to you contributions and responses to the posts. It is always nice have a SO post so as to get an fresh/different viewpoint